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[quote="MERLIN"]People play Soma for all kinds of reasons - Fun Escape Relaxing Social exposure Compulsion Loneliness Insomnia I wondered if a lot of people suffer with mental health issues? I know there is a stigma attached to that title but I simply mean mild depression to extreme depression and what coping mechanisms you've developed? I ask if anyone responds not to judge anyone, every player is a real life. Personally I have severe bouts of depression and don't want to be around anymore quite often. I have a lovely wife and a beautiful child but this cloud has been over me for well over a decade. I've seeked out help as I couldn't cope any longer and I'm on medication but feel like it's failing me. I wondered if anyone had experiences to share. Thanks[/quote]

[quote="KEKKET"]A psychologyst helped me a lot when i had something m8 if u not feeling well id suggest to go to 1 if u can. Im 3 years free now. Yes i still have my downs but i learnd how to deal with it. Suicide is never a solution u hurt all the ppl around you. Take care Kekket[/quote]

[quote="LINNYI"]You need to be able to identify the triggers that cause these bouts and then find some what they call coping methods and or stragedies to deal with them before they become an issue, counselling can help :)[/quote]

[quote="KENELM"]My mental state has always been a little... squiffy... since I was a kid. Back then I was completely uncontrollable, prone to outbursts of rage (still have this a little now, it's never quite gone away). I was seeing a councilor before I hit double-digits, who just thought I was "being a kid" but obviously something was wrong lol. As I grew older, I became even more uncontrollable, delving into the world of alcohol and drugs (weed, pills, speed, mainly "party" drugs) in near-excessive amounts by the age of thirteen/fourteen. Often passing-out from smoking too much and there are patches in my memory that I have no recollection of to this day. Funny thing is, I felt normal when wasted and aside from when I was completely drunk, never once lashed-out or caused trouble (alcohol is not a good thing, really). During my 20s, I used to suffer from almost bi-polar-esque depression and had tried to commit suicide once (around the age of 28, I think it was) by taking all of my medication at once, which turned out to be quite weak luckily because all that happened was I slept for most of the next day. Ended-up having paramedics out and being taken to hospital anyhow, as a precaution. But I'm 34 now and things have drastically changed. in the end, I stopped taking my medication, which was vastly-increased periodically and I found it very hard to even think let alone function. Sometimes I'd just sit there, staring. Not knowing what to do with myself. After stopping the meds (against doctor's orders), I just kind of got over it. Figured-out that my life wasn't so bad and that feeling a bit shitty from time-to-time is normal. Nobody is ever truly happy, regardless of how much they might think so. It's the human condition. The world is a horrible place at times and as soon as I accepted that I could do very little about it, except for try to learn to live within it, the weight of depression lessened substantially. And no matter how bad you might feel through depression, there is always somebody who is feeling worse. It's not really the best way to think of it, but it's true at least. Keeping occupied, with either hobbies or socializing, really helped me. Or perhaps try helping others, either through charity work, just going out and helping homeless people (plenty of them around these days) by getting them some food and a drink. You'll be surprised at what a difference showing some good will can do for your own well-being. Depression is so inwardly-focused and it's very easy to become almost selfish with it. The hardest thing, as mentioned, is identifying your triggers. Get a cheap notepad and when you feel depressed, write down where you were, what your were doing and thinking about. Eventually, you might notice a pattern emerge and then are more equipped to take action to deal with it. EDIT: Jeez, sorry for the wall of text lol.[/quote]

[quote="GHOSTLORD"]Thanks for sharing your stories. I've had my troubles myself, never felt at home at college and ended up going nowhere for too long. In the end I had enough strength to quit and set myself free. It feels as though I've been near a burn out in the recent years and have been close or in a depression since I went to study abroad for half a year. Ever since I've been building myself up slowly towards real life. I've always hid myself in games. Though nothing helps me as much as music does. I also believe it helped me to reflect, accept and be thankful for everything. I also have loving people around me, that helps a lot. :)[/quote]

[quote="HOHOHOHO"]I'm feeling pretty suicidal at the moment if I'm honest, in constant pain..(since 2014 this has dragged on) for two years'ish I just stayed at home dealing with the pain by myself, pretty dumb I know. Due to have a operation on my large intestine in the new year, if this doesn't sort it then I'm pretty much giving up... even eating at the moment brings on pain. Cheers for your stories though lads, it's like a yo-yo atm so up n down.[/quote]

[quote="RASCZAK"][quote="ISYLVER"] My inbox is always open if anyone wants a chat also.[/quote] This is why i am proud I know you Dan... You have always been selfless.. from the heart i think you are just a great person. Always there to give advice and obviously what you did for the soma community after all the Abuse and being Unappreciated Ive always ended our conversations in game by saying what you do for everyone is awesome.. hope you know i mean it pal. More people need to say it.. that why i always do Thanks for everything Dan Jack[/quote]

[quote="RASCZAK"][quote="GHOSTLORD"]Thanks for sharing your stories. I've had my troubles myself, never felt at home at college and ended up going nowhere for too long. In the end I had enough strength to quit and set myself free. It feels as though I've been near a burn out in the recent years and have been close or in a depression since I went to study abroad for half a year. Ever since I've been building myself up slowly towards real life. I've always hid myself in games. Though nothing helps me as much as music does. I also believe it helped me to reflect, accept and be thankful for everything. I also have loving people around me, that helps a lot. :)[/quote] I can remember us Talking About issues back in the day on MSN Ghost.. you helped me alot through alot of problems i was dealing with IRL.. and you just did a simple thing as listen and give ur honest opinion.. always straight with me and we built a friendship even more out of soma because of it.. my only regret was losing contact with you for so many years jack[/quote]

[quote="LINNYI"]And as always I'm here for anyone who needs a chat or just someone to listen. I have never lost my title of mother of soma xx[/quote]

[quote="ENIMEEZE"]I can relate to this, although these days I tend to live in my own little bubble, I've never been a people person at the best of times so generally I just avoid having to interact with anyone, seems far simpler [/quote]

[quote="TEDZ0R"]thats very nice that you guys really share ur feelings here, i think its a relief game, even the music is relaxing , i personally dont have any of that but i can understand how hard is it , advice is to listen music u like ,always think positive , its so hard to think positive always , but its the fastest way to quit this feelings, and a Psychology always can help, sometimes pills make things worse , u need to try escape it by urself , if u think ur lonely just go to bars and talk to people im sure u will always find someone have same issue like u also sports, yoga helps alot!! and you do have very strong personality that you talking about that stuff here, feel free anytime to pm me Tedz0r and talk about anything good luck guys :) hope yall feel better [/quote]

[quote="KHASAV"]I've always had issues myself with depression and anxiety and I've been on medication for it in the past and it did help. I managed to get myself off the medication over time and found eventually I started to struggle again. After coming off the medication the second time I decided to start doing alot of exercise and eating a better diet. Currently I now go the the gym 5 nights a week and have a full meal plan I prep every Sunday. It's not just the excercises that helps pick me up it's the distraction of it all an occupied mind can't linger on things and the same goes with soma or any game it keeps my mind busy. I would definitely reccomend doing a workout plan to anyone feeling low it really gives you something to sink your teeth in to and eating better also lifts your mood. [/quote]

[quote="SUBXERO"]IF anyone would like to do a special pod cast talking about this issue please inbox me i think we can help a lot of the community talking about this :) [/quote]